Knights view the world as a cataclysmic conflict with winners and losers, with battles to be fought, and with right and wrong as dominant drivers. Gardners…have the instinct to look for ways to heal, to connect, and to grow the people they encounter. These biases affect the way people buy groceries, practice a religion (or not), and vote. ~Seth Godin
Growing up, I wanted to be the knight slaying the fire breathing dragon, Clint shooting up the black hats holding a town hostage, John Wayne landing on Iwo Jima killing the enemies of god ultimately preserving our heavenly ordained way of life. I identified with the hero destroying lives to save life deemed more worthy. I bought into the twisted notion that killing in the name of God was an acceptable metaphor for expressing Jesus’ love. Then I grew up.
The eye for an eye mindset creates a world of good vs evil. If one looks for evil, one will find evil. A world of us and them, of our rights versus their wrongs. Always division. It is the ‘Murican way.
What has it gotten us?
Dickocrats and Repricklicans constantly at war on a battlefield where ‘We the People’ are the casualties in a win at all costs mentality. Voting for either party is nothing more than partisanship feeding the voracious beast. They maintain power by keeping us at odds with each other, by driving a wedge separating the American people.
It took decades for my disassociated mind pulled apart by friend vs foe rhetoric to congeal and heal. Now, I stumble the path of gardener focused (mostly) on seeing the best in all, acting as a connector bridging hearts of disparate people, helping others grow instead of personally scaling the corporate ladder. I am now thrilled when a person I coach surpasses me where I used to see it as a personal affront. I am still ambitious. The ambition, though, is focused outward. How do I help the people I coach grow to be successful? What can I give of myself to help others succeed?
I have evolved into a gardener, a healer, a connector. I have come to the personal truth it is immoral to divide human from human. With the implication borders are immoral.